Dear Special You,
It is good to see you. And when I say “see you” I mean it – to be able to actually SEE you. Not just the physical person, but the one whose heart has known there was more just waiting to be found. It makes me feel all bubbly and tingly to know that you’ve shown up to trust your own heartbeat and more importantly – to give yourself permission to be the energetic and radiant woman that wants to move into the now powered by a sense of “why” instead of “shoulds.”
I know we’ve just met, but it feels like we’ve known each other for such a long time. Maybe that is because not only do I see you, but I get it. I’ve been there. Our circumstance may have been different, but I too spent so much energy and time striving for outcomes and pushing onward no matter what.
I realized recently that I’ve lived my life defining myself by singular moments. Fighting cancer. Surviving cancer. Becoming a teacher. Becoming a mom. Crossing finish lines. Ending a marriage. Finding love again. Chasing a dream. I don’t know about you, but all that chasing – it is exhausting. Especially because I was never satisfied when I finally reached what it was I thought I was chasing.
What are you chasing? And maybe even more importantly – why are you chasing it?
What would happen if you gave yourself to stop chasing and start feeling? All the feels. The good ones, the yucky ones and everything in between. What would life be like if you allowed the moments to be the shining stars instead of the outcomes? Or…and I’m with you if this sounds scary – if you could let yourself be your own star that shines even more brightly even in the darkness?
Sweet friend…(Is it ok if I call you that?) – I’ve got a secret to tell you. I spent so much time surrounding myself with conditions and perceptions. Things I could or couldn’t do because of fictional rules that existed only in my mind.
Here are a few of my favorites from over the years:
Run a marathon? Ha. No way, I’m too slow and too fat. (Oh yes, I told myself that. Over and over again).
End a loveless marriage? No thank you. I do not want to be the “one” that left. And…even if I did leave…what would happen then? I am a single mom on a public school teacher budget!
Feel GREAT in my clothes no matter what size they are? Hello. Can I tell you about the time I ended up in the emergency room in college because all I’d been drinking was SlimFast for two weeks.
Practice yoga? Giggle. There is no way I can put myself into that shape much less be strong enough to go upside down.
Learn to surf? That is just downright funny.
Make time for meditation or PLAY each day? Really. Have you seen my to-do list? I’ve got a spreadsheet and budget that I’m supposed to be focused on!
At some point though, it hit me. And I’m hoping that you are ready to be hit with the same AHA. Those stories, those rules, those perceptions are NOT REAL. Not only that, but they only existed because I was not ready to TRUST myself to show up as my best self no matter what happened in the end.
You do not have to be flying off a surfboard into an epic belly flop like I did to realize that life happens when we show up with determination instead of expectation. You just have to allow yourself to know that this moment…where you are right now…that is exactly where you need to be.
Perhaps the biggest nudge came when I realized that everything I wanted and craved – already existed – inside me.
I didn’t need the right body, the right love, the right wave – or any fancy equipment. Everything I needed was inside me. I just needed to slow down and breathe long enough to find it.
I’m here to tell you that YOU’VE GOT THIS.
It isn’t always an easy journey to go beyond yourself to unearth that you that has been hidden all this time – but it IS ALWAYS WORTH IT.
Plus, you’ve got me. I’ll hold your hand and ask you questions. I’ll shine a mirror on you and all that you desire so that you can see your own reflection. Make no mistake, I won’t do the work for you. Nor will I let you live in the stories of your past. I’ll call you out as friends do – when you start to go down the rabbit hole. (Because I get it, I’ve gone down it myself. It feels easier to play with distractions than to show up for ourselves. But I know that you are ready.)
So, what do you say?
Are you ready to give yourself permission to show up as your best self? Are you ready to go beyond the boundaries of your perceptions so that you can not just handle what life throws at you, but thrive as the main character in your ideal life?
With much love, admiration, and gratitude – Elena
P.S. I wrote this love letter to you because I felt like it was way past time for me to reach out. I’d love to connect with you on a 30-minute discovery call to help see what it is that is holding you back from giving yourself the permission to show up as YOU.
I want to create the life I crave!
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